On Mean Comments & A Suede Pencil Skirt

Wednesday, July 23, 2014

Outfit deets:
* Urban Planet sweater which you've seen in my Pre-Spring Trends Try-On video.
* Vintage (thrifted) suede skirt which you've seen a long time ago with a grey leather jacket.
* Zara basic sandals which you've seen with a palm printed coat, burgundy pants & skinny jeans.
* Accessories: Material Girl cuff, Deux Lux bag, Alfred Sung sunnies & Spring midi ring.

Hey guys, thanks for popping in to hang out for a minute.  Some of you have been leaving me some really nice comments lately while some people have not been following the, 'If you have nothing nice to say, don't say anything at all'-adage.

I love blogging and connecting with you all.  I have said it before, and I'll say it again: my life is not perfect, I have hardships, emotions and difficult days.  What I share here is meant to be positive, uplifting and generally enjoyable for anyone who might stumble over here (or check in on the daily because I know some of you are simply awesome like that).  I don't expect everyone to like me or agree with what I'm doing or how I'm living.  That said, I do expect everyone to be respectful and kind.  I try to treat everyone I encounter with respect and kindness and if my blog isn't your cup of tea, no need to be nasty, simply move on to something that is.

On the flip side, to the reader friends who have been here for a long time, or a short time, and leave the sweetest comments, sometimes even defending comments, or simply enjoy my blog silently, thank you.  Thank you from the bottom of my heart.  Putting yourself out there on the Internet is going to cause some drama, at some point, and I love that you have my back and enjoy this space.  That makes me want to continue and share and be here too.

For now, I have changed the comment settings so you will have to sign in if you would like to comment.  I know a lot of you leave positive comments under anon, so I'm sorry to remove that option for the time being.  You can always send me an email or tweet me (@acoest1984) if you'd like.  BIG HUG and thanks for reading.


Photos by Serena Rivard.

20 comments:

Renee said...

One thing I try to remember is that the people who try to tear others down are the people who are the most unhappy with their own lives. I'm sure you already knew that yourself, but sometimes a little reminder can't hurt! :)

Oh, and I once read on a blog that negative comments usually means that you're doing something right! It's ironic, but I'm pretty sure they're right so remember that too!! :)

Midori Thomlinson said...

I absolutely LOVE your blog!!! It's light, fun, introspective, thoughtful, and REAL! I can't even believe some of the comments that people leave - it's just disgusting that anyone can be so rude. Keep your chin up, chica. I think you're doing such a great job, and don't worry about those losers ;)

Nicole said...

You are awesome! One of my favorite blogs to read because you seem so down to earth. Forget the haters.

Cameron said...

<3 !!!
You're an amazing woman Amanda... and by proxy so is your blog (and everything else that you do)!
One of the most kind hearted people I've ever had the privilege to meet.
Great post and loving your hair like that!!! xo

Sarah Palisek said...

Haters gon hate girl. I know it's hard to read some days but you can't let it get you down or stop you from doing what you love.

Mean people on the internet are sad and lonely people in "real life". Nothing better to do than bring others down to their sad level.

I love your blog your videos and you in general. Keep it up! I would kinda hate on ya if I was so pretty, talented, paid to shop, and have a pretty great life full of friends, travel and great times. But then if you know you, you can't help but love you. You're such a kind and thoughtful person.

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Renee: I appreciate the reminder and kind words!!! Thanks so much friend :)

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Awwwwww <3 thank you SO MUCH!!! Your comment brings a huge smile to my face, girl. Much appreciated!!

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Wow, thank you, Nicole!!! Loved reading that. :)

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

I can always count on you to lift my spirits ;) thanks for the sweet comment and always kind words and friendship.

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Thanks Sar, really appreciate the support, kind words and love!!!

tinatre said...

I really admire that you put yourself out there & take the time to blog & vlog. Haters can't touch you. Keep up with your success!!

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Thank you, thank you, thank you!! And thanks for leaving a comment, it means so much :)

Connie H said...

I sucks that people post negative things but I think it is awesome that you are calling them on it.
I agree that if you can't say something nice keep your mouth shut, or in this case your cursor out of the comment box.
Keep it up Amanda!

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Aww thanks Connie! I appreciate the support & cursor comment (hehe!!).

Serena said...

It is true that haters are going to hate. I've suffered through this with the artistic photos that I had posted on various photography sites. You learn to live with it but there is always that pang of pain after reading those words nonetheless.

This blog and others like it are not a matter of simply posting on a whim, there is much time and effort put into them.

That, I believe, is the underlying reason dispirited comments affect us so deeply. It only took them mere moments to type those words and in that instant where you read them, they tear at the time, the commitment, and the vision that went into the creative work. The worst part of it though, is they make us doubt ourselves. That is where we have to rise above their comments and just carry on, and that is a difficult proposition at times.

If I could say I learned one thing from negative comments, it was this: if it doesn't come from someone you respect, then it doesn't mean anything. Typically a negative comment from someone you respect is constructive and gives you something to work with. All others can be ignored.

So keep at it. One day the haters will see A.Co Fashion in Vogue! :)

586Rexford said...

Oh my goodness, that vintage green suede skirt was quite the find! I just love how you show us how to take an old piece of clothing and make it look fresh and new. It takes excellent intuition and talent to know how to choose pieces that you will love for a lifetime. Love your videos and blog! They give me something to look forward to at the end of a tiring, frustrating day. :)

Loren said...

Wow, it never ceases to amaze me how mean people can be to total strangers. They don't know you, and certainly have no right to say hurtful things.

As a long time reader of your blog I have to say I think you do a FANTASTIC job and I look forward to seeing your outfits, as I am horrible at putting them together myself, so you're inspiring. :)
Just remember that there will ALWAYS be more good people than bad.
Keep doing your thing Amanda, you're doing great work!!

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Awww thank you soooo much (per usual!). I love reading comments like that and it's nice to know you're enjoying my videos (and now blog! ;)

Amanda @ A.Co est. 1984 said...

Loren, thank you so much!! I love reading you're a long time reader (and I recognize you from Instagram too!) and your comment is so sweet. Thanks for leaving a comment and being so kind.

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